By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-07-01 01:30:42 | Word Count: 565
There’s a breed of men that loves to date but hates the emotional intimacy. They would want to be emotionally unattached, but want to play on the dating field. That is what they all want, to date and have fun. One casual relationship, but no strings attached, please. These days, that is quite acceptable already as there are also women who are players and think the same way as this kind of men.
It works just fine if you are a player yourself. The challenge comes when a woman with commitment in mind dates a man who has no plans of getting into a serious relationship. However hard you sweet talk that man into committing would be like squeezing water out of stone.
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Believe me, even if you use all the tricks in the bag, including shutting up, it just won’t work. Men who prefer to be emotionally unavailable know what they want and love the fact that they can play the field and remain uncommitted. It will be frustrating for a woman to make that kind of man commit. Trying will prove to be futile.
It should be the man’s responsibility to keep the relationship alive right?
Yes and no actually. Truthfully, men must take on more responsibility to keep the relationship going but reality shows that it does not always work that way.
Reminding them again and again will not work, because they would think that you are their mom who kept on ordering them around when they were still kids. Nagging would almost guarantee that you will not see even the shadow of that man in the days to come. Forcing the man to go the direction you want him to go will only make him move farther and farther away.
Should you say something or forever hold your peace? What will work and what will not?
There are many things you can do to make him go towards what you want willingly. But the key lies in your hand. If you want a long term relationship, you might want to change a few things like the way you see things, and the way you show him how you feel. It will be a sacrifice, but making him fall for you will make the sacrifice worth it.
How you see things between a man and a woman may have to change. Believing that it is all the man responsibility to make the relationship work, or thinking that he should accept you for who you are flaws and all are thoughts you need to change. If you choose not to change and continue believing those lines, then you can expect Prince Charming never to find you ever again.
Listen to him and show him you really care and that you are interested in what he thinks and how he looks at thinks. Listening will make you see how his mind works and you may be able to find his weakness and make him feel that you are a gem that he should not let go. Who knows, probably the reason that he has remained in the field is because he has not found that woman who knew how to push the right buttons. Be the woman that he has been dreaming about and be amazed on how he will do his role in the relationship without you lifting a finger.
