By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-12-27 06:02:31 | Word Count: 567
When good “boyfriend material” comes your way, do you pretend to be cool and act coy?
By “cool,” I mean do you try to project the image of being friendly, casual and not really that interested in him even if you know that this new guy is definitely worth his weight in gold? After the small talk, you may even give him your number and ask him to call you sometime.
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A lot of women do this – they pretend to be cool and uninterested, and yet wonder why he doesn t call afterwards. What s worse, other women who aren t as beautiful and as interesting as you are seem to be getting all the calls and attention from the men. They automatically hit off with Mr. New Guy while you on the other hand end up only as friends with him at most.
In reality, pretending to be cool and coy doesn t make men attracted to you. Doing so would only make him think that you’re not really interested in him. So what would he think then if after this oh so casual conversation you give him your number and expect him to call? Right! He ll think you re one of those desperate women who rush into the first relationship that comes their way.
First impressions are important. So if during the first meeting you play it cool, he may think that you’re not interested, tired, or simply cold. If you do this with every new guy that comes along, then you’re most probably turning off all the eligible men who are open to new relationships.
Now is the right time for a new plan. Obviously, the old one isn t working, so when you meet Mr. New Guy, put your best foot forward. Talk to him as if he was the most interesting single guy in the world. Be truly interested in who he is as a person, and try to have as much fun as you can – but don’t fake it.
This won t guarantee a 100 success rate when it comes to men. Four out of five new guys probably won t be interesting or fun. They may not even be single and interested in having a new relationship. But still, one out of five isn t bad at all. At least you’re not turning off every single one you talk to! Who knows, this one guy might enjoy your company enough to ask for your number himself.
So now you know why some women who aren t as smart or beautiful as you still get more than their share of men who call and keep in touch all the time. When they meet a new guy, they have fun and show they re interested in him, and they don’t try to play it cool.
Remember, though, that you shouldn’t try to control him – don’t even think of trying to change his mannerisms, his thoughts, or his feelings. He isn’t the issue here – you are. You can try to fuss and sweet talk him into it, but you can never convince him to like you if he doesn’t see you as someone worthy of his time. You’ve heard the phrase “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder,” and it s your job to let him see your true beauty – honestly.
