By: Eric Dunbar
Submitted: 2010-09-05 21:16:32 | Word Count: 900
I bet you didn’t know that there are people out there who will do everything to see you fall short. Okay I will say it again: There are people out there who will do everything to see you fail. Have you ever been on fire to achieve a long time objective only to be told that you are wasting your time? For those who have no vision of their own, it seems they are hell bent on destroying yours. But if you examine such individuals it will become apparent to you why they have no vision.
Some people call them jealous while others call them haters, but there is a name for people that go out of their way to terminate your dream… they are “Dream Killers”. Dream killers are not a new breed; they have been around since the beginning of time, but before we talk about others who might terminate your ambitions let’s talk about the number one silent dream killer: procrastination.
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Almost everybody has procrastinated about something, whether it was changing a diet regime, quitting smoking, starting an exercise program or saving money, procrastination is a self-inflicted, self-damaging measure that will work to do more to crush your dreams than any dream killer.
Procrastination will stop you from pursuing your dreams altogether by continually putting off an action until tomorrow. I once procrastinated about writing a book. Every time I thought about picking up the pen my mind would become cluttered with thoughts about finding a publisher, signing a once in a lifetime book deal, and other things like book advertising, that had nothing to do with the actual writing of the book. After no more than five minutes of this, I would become discouraged and say things like, “ There’s no way I will ever be an author ”… “Who would publish my book?”
This went on for years, yes years. Then one day without thinking all those negative thoughts I just picked up the pen and began writing, and once I did I became electrified and motivated. “THE FACE OF A DEMON”, the book that I procrastinated about writing for so long became my first published eBook, and ultimately my first published book. Procrastination is probably the first dream killer that you will meet, but it is also the easiest to overcome. All you have to do is stop thinking about it and be about it, and in little or no time you will become motivated and start to build upon your dream.
It is easy to spot a dream killer because they rarely have everything pleasant to say. If you say good morning, they will answer, “What’s so pleasant about it?” Ask a dream killer simple questions like, “How are you feeling today?” or “Isn’t this a beautiful morning?” they will give you this long list of pessimistic complaints that more or less never ends.
When you tell a dream killer about your dream most often they will say, “You have to be realistic.” The reality of a dream is there is nothing practical about it. Dreams do not have to be sensible, but they can become a reality. Every remarkable achievement and contribution to mankind was once someone’s dream. The computer you are viewing this article on was at one time nothing more than a dream. Your dream is your own view of what you would like your world to be like and you should never allow anyone to rob you of such a priceless asset.
Dream killers are talented at destroying your dream, but they can be successful only if you let them. So how do you cope with dream killers?
Make a start with yourself; learn to weed out the voices in your head. All successful people have had to deal with their own thoughts that sometimes sound like voices in your head. When your thoughts are optimistic consider and investigate them, but when they become damaging you must immediately stop. Negative thoughts can lead to procrastination and procrastination can cause you to become contented with where you are in live and you will never begin to develop your dream.
Never allow anyone to commandeer your dream. Don’t allow your ambitions to become the object of your friends and associates remarks and condemnation. Make your dreams your biggest secret. When seeking advice find someone who has been where you are trying to go. Although your friends may mean well, they are more than likely misinformed and will only misguide you. Do not inquire of a mechanic how to bake a turkey; you will probably end up with a greasy mess.
Dream killers will always tell you that you cannot achieve something; don’t listen to them. When external criticism becomes personal it gives birth to fear. Fear will then eat away at your courage, and courage is the one thing that you cannot forfeit when building your dream. Never share your dreams with these predictors of doom. Just remember that misery likes company.
Author Resource:-
Eric Dunbar is the owner and editor of Golden Entrepreneur, where you will find outstanding resources to help the online entrepreneur excel in business. Eric Dunbar is also the author of THE FACE OF A DEMON, referred to by many as “The Recovering Addict’s Handbook”, and editor of X-JOURNAL Blog
