By: Jason Maxwell
Submitted: 2010-08-30 10:19:20 | Word Count: 488
Kids that are products of broken homes become face a lot of personal problems and they often blame theselves of the split. These kids deal with depression and loneliness. They are having a hard time dealing with the loss of their family and they experience divided loyalty between their parents.
It is very helpful to assess the needs of children before deciding on a therapeutic program. Conduct a survey that allows students to have a direct role in determining areas of concern that they are open to and are willing to deal with. At the end of the survey, space is provided for students to write in detail about specific feelings or situations they would like to know about.
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Before starting the session, the rules are discussed. They are informed that if anyone wishes to discontinue attending the sessions, they are free to do so. Children always have the right to remain silent. But see to it that you encourage the shy ones to open up. Reinforce the importance of learning from one another. Some students feel more comfortable knowing that they will never be forced to share or discuss any issue that they feel is private. Other rules include giving each one an opportunity to speak and be listened to, never laughing or making fun of whatever is shared to the group, being honest, and keeping everything confidential.
Explain the reasons for the rules so that the chances that the children will abide by them increases. Finally, a form of contract shall be signed by all, making a commitment and agreement to follow the rules.
During the sessions, children should remember these important messages:
You are special. You are not to blame. You can overcome this hardships. The divorce was not your fault. You have people who care about you. Your parents are divorcing each other. They are not divorcing you. It's not your divorce. The problems that led to the divorce was not because of you and you are not to blame. You can't do anything to fix these problems. You can help each other. (referring to the group)
This therapy session has the goal to provide support when it is badly needed and to let the children understand that they are not to blame and that they are not alone. This is to reinforce the student's need to talk and be able to cop up with the current situation and deal with their feelings and thoughts. They in turn can develop coping mechanisms and be able to create an open communication with other students, teachers and their parents, of course. They can overcome their emotional problems and behavioral concerns.
Author Resource:-
If you know any children of divorcees, enroll them at a therapeutic boarding school. Eckerd Academy is one of the best therapeutic boarding schools you can trust to promote positive life views and practices for these kids.
