By: kikaru kung
Submitted: 2010-08-01 20:51:04 | Word Count: 578
Want to date three to four women without lying nor using manipulation? It's done all the time by guys who live that reality. Yes, you can be upfront and honest to all of them. Yes, many will walk away. Yes, many will be okay with it. It's also okay to date just one girl if that's what you really want. If your friends are always going on about their conquests and pressure you to get "laid" more often, then tell them to get lost. Be who you are. The only danger that I see often with this situation is that the guy gets too attached. It's human nature for a guy to want to be around this beautiful girl at all times and know what she's doing every minute of every day.
When this happens, the guy usually begins to display insecurities and a possessiveness that kill the relationship. The girl leaves him and he's left scratching his head, all lonely and hurt wondering what he did wrong. I recommend to guys that in the beginning, you date two to three girls. Yes, maybe you like one girl more than the other two. But since you have the other two, you're not going to get obsessed with one.
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When you start to think "I wonder what she's doing", your ship begins to sink. This is the first sign of neediness growing in your mind. This is the point where you begin to self-sabotage yourself in the relationship.
More than anything, a woman wants a man with a life-a guy who isn't going to smother her. That's why most women out there really are open to your dating other women (at least in the beginning until her emotions get the better of her). They'll never admit it, but women find a man who has other women in his life attractive. It means he has a life and that he's a challenge for her to win over. Which is why it's best to be a "ladies' man" even if you just want one girlfriend. At least until she's proven herself to you for a very long time. (And I'm talking years here. Months don't cut it.)
Being a "ladies' man" is nothing but having choice in your life. You don't have to be a "player". A player lies and manipulates whereas a ladies' man is honest and direct. A player says, "You're the only girl in my life" but a ladies' man says, "I'm not ready to settle down and I'm seeing a couple of girls".
Believe it or not, when you say this it makes women want you even more. Be honest to yourself and be honest to the women in your life. Even if it's bold or comes across as rude or arrogant, don't shy away from it.
And please... don't make the mistake of locking yourself into a relationship too soon. On the other hand, don't be a player. Find a balance between the two. Be honest with yourself and others. Follow these simple steps and women will automatically gravitate into your life.
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