By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-09-17 20:54:34 | Word Count: 529
Sharing great moments with your boyfriend over quite some time would make you think that he loves spending time with you so much that he s bound to ask for your hand in marriage eventually. Everything you do as a couple feels like you re married anyway, so you think that the next thing he ll do is make things official.
So you go and drop hints about how now is the perfect time to go into a much more stable and serious commitment. Then you tell your friends and family that you think he ll ask for your hand very soon. But by doing so, you re putting a strain in your relationship by having unrealistic expectations and he may not even be thinking of proposing yet. So instead of proposing, he ll start getting distant.
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Are you putting too much pressure on your relationship? Here s a few bad habits that may be driving him away.
1. Wrong Assumptions.
The more you think about certain things, the more you believe them to be true. For instance, you may think that a wonderful relationship with you would make him want the same things you do such as taking the relationship to the next level.
That s why you get hurt when you realize he s not thinking the same things as you. You might think that men can (or should) read minds, but the fact remains they can t.
2. Unmet Expectations.
If you ve been expecting his proposal because of the signals that he s been showing, even when you haven t talked about it yet, chances are you ll be frustrated. It s only okay to expect when you ve talked about things already otherwise, it ll be anybody s guess whether you re both on the same page.
Don t automatically assume that you re heading in the same direction, because unmet expectations may lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
3. Assuming That Commitment is the next step.
The way that you enjoy your time together might make you assume a proposal is the next logical thing to happen. This is easy to expect especially if you ve been physically intimate and emotionally connected to each other.
But in truth, it s also possible that he s not thinking about committing just yet even if he s having a great time with you as his girlfriend. And it doesn t mean that he s just having fun with you either he might simply be preparing himself emotionally and financially to settle down with you.
So what do you do? Telling him that you ll leave if he doesn t propose soon will just make him think you re not the kind of woman he d want to marry. Instead, just be the best girlfriend to him and stop assuming that he s thinking the same way as you. Stay honest with him and keep communication lines open, and just be the woman that he fell in love with in the first place.
When you re at peace with yourself and your relationship, he ll soon realize that you are worth spending the rest of his life with.
