By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-09-17 20:31:04 | Word Count: 608
You and your girl friends are meeting again in your usual haunt every month. As always you talk about the usual topics that cement your friendship, like love and relationships. These are topics that always excite you because you get to be updated with how everybody else’s life is going.
You can’t help but be happy for them and nod in agreement all the time. Then suddenly you realize that you can’t relate. They are bubbling with excitement as they share their love stories, but you don’t have a story to share with them.
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When you get back to work from the coffee shop, you can t help but wonder if you re doing something wrong with your love life. Despite how happy you are for your friends and their new boyfriends, you wonder why your own relationships hardly ever match up to theirs. Is there something wrong with you that you always attract the wrong kind of men?
You want to enjoy what everybody else is enjoying – the feeling of loving and being loved in return. You sadly think about what you re missing and when this sadness will end. To keep you from thinking about it over and over again, you drown yourself with work hoping that it ll be enough to help you forget about your sad love story.
Because of this, you stay away from the dating game. Who wants to date when all the guys you’ve dated in the past aren t good husband material anyway, right?
It s natural and understandable to be afraid, but if you want to say goodbye to your single life, you ll have to get rid of such fearful and negative thinking. After all, if you don’t make the effort to go out and meet new men, how do you expect Mr Right to walk into your life? It s not like he s going to fall on your lap, you know.
Thinking about your fear all the time will stop you from enjoying life completely. It ll keep you from accepting the fact that there s somebody out there who s totally different from the men you ve dated before. And you won t find him, or allow him to walk into your life, if you shrink from the idea of getting into a new relationship.
The truth is that the key to happiness lies in you. If you re fearful, then you ll attract fearful men. If you keep a positive mindset, you ll attract positive men. And if you re independent, you ll attract independent men. Don’t be afraid to be who you really are and learn to be your own woman. A woman who handles her emotions well, especially in the topic of love and on dealing with men, are intensely interesting for a man.
He doesn’t stay in the relationship with you because you make him feel good all over. The truth is that he stays with you because he feels good when he s with you. To make him feel good every time you re together, you have to control your emotions. Be the mature woman that you want to be – someone who loves life and lives it to the fullest. That is how you attract him emotionally. If you have this intense emotional attraction as far as he s concerned, then you are sure that he will find you irresistible.
Emotional attraction lasts a lot longer than physical attraction. If you want to say goodbye to the single life, then bravely enjoy life and develop and character that will attract him emotionally.
