By: Benedict Smythe
Submitted: 2008-09-06 06:58:23 | Word Count: 586
Having a great deal of self confidence has been proven to boost anyone’s life and career to the top. Many people believe that confidence is a state of mind and this is actually true. To achieve this state of mind, a person must undergo serious changes in his attitudes, his outlook at life, and his goals. But to better understand the true meaning of self confidence, there must be a clear distinction whether this belief in one’s self is self esteem or just pure determination.
Having self confidence is an issue to most people. This is a negative state of mind where other people are thought to be better than oneself. Some even have the wrong connotation that people are born with self confidence.
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Self Confidence and the Society
Self confidence does not come to those who do not seek it. It all boils down on how a person feels about himself. Self confidence can be developed or it can remain stagnant. Many people have the tendency to categorize themselves by the standards that the society dictates upon them. Unfortunately, the world has an unrealistic standard when it comes to what’s perfect or good enough.
For self confidence to bud, a person must value and truly accept himself. He must also be contented with who he is. It’s always a wrong notion to try to please other people just to be accepted. When this happens, self confidence starts to creep to the sidelines until it is completely compromised.
Gaining Self Confidence
Too many people spend their precious time on letting the world know that they conform to the world’s standards. Doing this dulls an individual’s senses and it can only be remedied if he learns to love himself despite his imperfections.
The first step to gaining self confidence is to believe in oneself. This faith will catapult anyone to succeed on anything that his mind has been set to do. Success may not be in sight on the very first try but the secret is to keep trying. Quick success simply isn’t possible in gaining self confidence. Attaining the ultimate goal can only happen when the person strives hard to obtain it. Pushing oneself to the limit and constant practice are important factors to consider.
Tips on Increasing Self Confidence
•A person who is aiming to gain self confidence must start by having a journal and recording his ultimate goal. Studies have proven that writing down goals makes it a lot easier to remember and achieve them. The journal can also be used to record strengths and the reasons for loving oneself.
•A person must always commend himself for all the positive things that happen to his life. He can do this by buying himself a treat each time he does something magnificent. This will boost the feeling of being special.
•Self acceptance is a must and an individual must learn to not only accept but also to love the qualities that he has. It is never good to compare one person’s characteristics with one’s characteristics. This act of comparison will only bring about one of two things—a superiority or inferiority complex.
•After the acceptance of strengths and weaknesses, it is also necessary to understand the physical, mental and spiritual aspects of life.
Generally, self confidence is developed when it is thought of constantly and practiced on a regular basis. Without persistence on the learner’s part, self confidence might as well be an impossible dream.
