By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-09-01 18:59:36 | Word Count: 536
If this article caught your eye, then you could be one of the women who are left wondering why you can’t seem to keep the guys interested in you. You do everything you can but nothing seems to work. It could be that you’ve been friends for the longest time but dating never crossed his mind. Could there be something wrong with you?
Asking that question is a positive sign. It means that you are interested in making him continue his interest in you. But above all, you have to realize that there are things that women think they are doing right to make the relationship work but it never does.
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For example, if you think that being too nice to him will make him stay you may be wrong. Men can see if you are trying too hard to the point of not being true to yourself. When you laugh at his jokes even if it’s not funny or when you compliment him every chance you get, then you are trying too hard. And when you try too hard, you cease to be interesting for him.
Why is this so? To make the picture clearer, imagine being asked by a guy to go to bed with him on the first date. Is disgusting the right way to explain how would you feel? Same feeling is true when you try too hard to be nice to him. It means that you are giving him signals that you are clingy and needy, someone he does not want to spend his days with.
So what are the attributes of the ideal woman? Men are basically attracted with these three attributes:
Attribute #1 – Physical Well Being. The truth is more men are attracted to specific shapes and sizes but this doesn’t mean that you have to have the perfect body symmetry. In reality men are made to be attracted to young and fertile women, shown through their body language, enthusiasm and over all well being. Basically it’s not about genes alone but how women take care of themselves as well.
Ever wondered why men are attracted not to the nerdy serious types, but to the perky cheerleaders?
Attribute #2 – Emotional Stability – men usually kid their girlfriends about being too emotional, overly sensitive and being drama queens. Even if these are passed off as jokes between friends, these statements tell you about the true need of men to have an emotionally stable girlfriend. Men want a level headed girlfriend who doesn’t keep them on their toes emotionally all the time.
Again, being overly nice can send out signals that you are doing things under pretense just to make him interested in you. He might think that you agree with everything because you are not sure what you really want.
Attribute #3 – Sense of Humor – this could be regarded as the most significant attribute a man can find in his girlfriend. Having a sense of humor will tell him that you possess the first two attributes above. This means that you can have fun without going overboard and laugh over your mistakes and move on.
Be yourself and have fun, and keep him interested in the real you.
