By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-09-01 18:27:02 | Word Count: 508
If this article got your attention then you must have cried before as you heard your boyfriend say that he is not ready to get into a serious relationship with you as he bade you goodbye. You thought that the hurt could not get worse until you saw him getting cozy with other women in the dating field.
Of course there are men who stray, but consider the fact that making or breaking a relationship is the responsibility of two people. A relationship can’t be built by just one person.
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Are your actions toward him really makes him want to stay? Or could you be doing something that makes him want to leave? Check out the following points and learn them well before getting into a new relationship.
Point #1 – Stop holding on to him too tightly. We know that all relationships need room for change as nobody is perfect. So why do you demand that he change according to how you want him to be? Admittedly, women beg and cajole their men to do things that could spice up the relationship a little bit. You can do that sometimes and it works; do it frequently and you would be deemed a nagger and someone who chokes her man enough for him to leave you.
Think about the kind of love that you shared when you began your relationship. If you want to go back towards that kind of love, choking him is not the answer. What you can do instead is to create an environment in the relationship that is conducive for growth. You may want to pave the way for him to realize that he too has a say in the relationship – if you do that, he will definitely love you more.
Point #2 – Stop demeaning him. The truth is there will really be times when the men screw things up. But demeaning him frequently will make him believe that you are too good for him.
No one wants to feel that he is worthless, but you are making him feel that way if you say things like “You screwed things up!”, “What on earth made you do that?” or “Can’t you see that you are doing it wrong?”. Hurting him this way will really make him leave you to nurse your wounds alone.
Point #3 – Learn to stand on your own. This is not about women who choose to live alone with out sharing their lives with men, but about the woman who is successful in her chosen field, secured emotionally and yet finds the correct balance in spending quality time with her man.
Women who learned to stand on their own are attractive to men who are equally successful because they know that women like this do not need much maintenance. They can both enjoy their time together because he knows that she will not be bothered by the little things.
Think about the points I shared and you will have better chances of making sure that you stay safe and secure in his arms.
