By: Douglas Spencer
Submitted: 2010-02-19 11:08:37 | Word Count: 860
First Things First
First of all, you do not just suddenly approach a person of the opposite sex and blurt out that you are looking for love the way comedians do on the television or in the movies. That tactic does not really work quite well. No, make that, that tactic does not work at all. It is just something to add up to the laughter ratings of a comedy movie, and really, it is something totally laughable once done in real life.
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So what you must do first is to start small. Just say hi and greet the people you know or whom you have just met in a specific event. Sooner or later, you will have yourself busy with conversations with different people at a time. Thus, your scope for a prospect widens.
Once you have already met someone you think is “the one”, then you have to show him or her kindness. As everybody might already know, people, of all genders and ages, respond more to kindness as opposed to rudeness. So if you are nice to your prospect, then, of course, he or she will pay you back with kindness as well.
Be Active.
You can join certain clubs or organizations where you think you will be seen a lot. This way, your scope widens even more since you get to meet new and more people. Thus, your chance of meeting a partner you think is right for you is made even more possible.
If you are not interested in joining an already existing club, you can create one of your own. You just have to think of something, like a theme of some sort that you think will be found interesting by many so that many people will join your self made club. Actually, it does not even have to a club; it just has to be a group of people with common interests who are comfortable with sharing their life stories or whatever it is that they would like to share.
Do Not Be An Open Book.
Let us say that you have now progressed to the next level with your date. Yes, date, because you should take him or her out to somewhere where the both of you could just talk and know more things about each other. However, once you do get the conversation going, you must not be to open about your life. It is fine that you mention stuff that happened to you at work, your hobbies, your interests, but it is not fine when you start blabbering about the number of times you got divorced.
It is flattering for them to know that you feel comfortable with their presence since you feel open when it comes to sharing about your life’s secrets. But you want to be a magnet for love, don’t you? Doing this will only make your potential lovers run away from you, thinking that you are a creep who has a knick at getting divorced.
Love Yourself.
You might think this is cheesy, but it is actually true. You want to attract people who could possibly love you, but this can only happen once you have learned to love yourself. Other people would find it very difficult to get to love you if you cannot find anything to love about yourself. For sure, there are traits or characteristics that you appreciate in yourself. Appreciating yourself is a way of showing that you love yourself. So love yourself and other people, as a result, will love you back.
Groom Yourself.
By this, what is meant is simply putting on the right clothes and being comfortable in the clothes that you wear, and not just putting on your most expensive outfit. You have to dress comfortably, but of course, presentable in public as well. If you are going to take a brisk walk by the seashore, you must wear beach clothes that shout Hawaii, and not wear slacks that could give you a heavy feeling, literally, since the hems will be gathering the sand you would have walked on.
You have to have a style of your own. Uniqueness is an important factor because it will be a differentiating factor that separates you from the other fish in the sea. Just be confident in how unique you are and how you show your uniqueness. If other people ridicule you for showing your personality in the way you groom yourself, however appropriate, leave them be. They are probably just envious that you actually have the guts to contradict the dictates of society and totally show who you are.
Self Actualize.
Everybody knows that the mind is the erogenous zone. If you did not know this, now you do. Therefore, you have to know a little bit about everything. You do not have to memorize an encyclopedia from cover to cover. All you have to do is at least know something about almost every topic. This way, when your potential partner talks about one of the topics that you do not know much about, you can still say some things about it and your conversation does not die.
Author Resource:-
Douglas Spencer, simplifies personal growth by helping you create and live a life that works well and feels great! My aim is to help you achieve greater awareness in living and experiencing life. To evolve human consciousness to higher levels. To change lives and to create possibility. To revolutionize the way we understand The Essence of What is. http://4lifesuccess.info
