By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-08-12 07:59:08 | Word Count: 555
Do you keep finding yourself in a relationship that doesn t last even if you ve been doing the right things? Then you could be getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Relationships like these usually start wrong and end horribly as well. Find out if you are in a relationship for the wrong reason by reading the following:
Wrong Reason #1: You feel lonely and alone.
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Being lonely sometimes makes girls hang on dearly to their boyfriend even if he is not keeping his end of the bargain in terms of respect and love. Girls like this, which probably include you, feel so afraid of being alone even if their boyfriends are abusive and immature that they would rather choose to continue a relationship with a jerk than live alone.
Be very cautious if you are on the path of having a relationship just so that you can have somebody to hang out with during the weekend as this would lead you to commit wrong reason no. 1.
Wrong Reason #2: You feel the pressure of having a relationship.
Seeing every one of your girl friends with their boyfriends will definitely make you feel that you are living alone in a world made for two, especially if they re getting engaged and you re left wondering why you are still single.
Some women may take this as a go signal for them to hurry up and get into a relationship with any guy who s available just to be able to keep with the current trend of being in relationships. Doing so is another way of walking into a sure disaster. Committing because of pressure won t make you happy in the long run as rushing things like this doesn t prepare you for the greater responsibilities ahead.
Wrong Reason #3: Committing just to fill the gap.
Have you ever felt that there is a gap in your life that really needs to be filled, and yet you don’t know how? Many women automatically assume that the gap is there because there is no man in their life at the moment. So they grab the next available man hoping that he could fill the empty space.
Sad to say, it won t. The gaps in your life will still be there even if you get into a relationship. The worst case scenario would be that he ll think that there s something wrong with you, and that your level of insecurity is obvious enough to make him hesitate in taking the relationship any further..
How then can you avoid having these wrong reasons in your relationship?
You may have heard this line before, but you should help yourself first. Being lonely doesn t mean that you automatically need a boyfriend. The answer to your loneliness could be meeting new friends and engaging in fun activities. If you look around you and all you see are couples, do not feel pressured. Instead, think of the freedoms you might have to give up once you commit.
Learn to fill the gap on your own if you think that there is something missing. The guys worth having would like to be with women who are independent and secure. Show these guys that you are worth having and you can be sure that they ll knock on your door soon.
