By: Cynthia Klymacks
Submitted: 2009-12-26 00:52:44 | Word Count: 926
I ve been playing in the swinging lifestyle for several years. I couldn t imagine a life without it. Let me shed some light on the swinging lifestyle so you ll have a better understanding. My mission is to provide you with the right tips and advice to help you meet and connect with a swinging couple. Fair enough?
As a single man, there are a few things that you should consider that most men never think about.
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The first thing that you should know is that swinging is basically a couple’s activity. Couples can be called Swingers. Single men or single women are not swingers. However, single people are often invited to play with Couples (swingers). Swinging couples are usually very faithful and never see other people without their spouse.
The husbands and their wives are very much in love and are best friends. They have a very bonded relationship. This is why they feel secure, safe and at ease fulfilling certain fantasies. They are confident about inviting others into their private bedroom. Understand?
Swinging is about the fulfilling and sharing of fantasies. If you enter the lifestyle with honest desires of helping others fulfill their fantasies while fulfilling your own, then yes I believe you will succeed as a single “male” within the Swinging Lifestyle.
If, however, you try to enter the lifestyle with the thought that it’s an easy and “free” way to get laid, then naturally this attitude will not go very far and you will absolutely fail.
As you can only imagine, it’s very difficult for single men to enter the private lives of swinging couples because they don t UNDERSTAND the lifestyle. Most men think the wives are wild sluts and will have sex with anyone. This type of thinking couldn t be farthest from the truth.
It s absolutely imperative you show respect to the husband and his wife. The slightest hint of disrespect might get you deleted or thrown on your ear.
There are a few couples out there who have fantasies, which involve and extra male or maybe even four or five. However, for every couple out there looking to include males in their playtime, there are at least 10 men trying to fill that one “lucky” spot.
So how do you beat out the competition? If you’re a decent looking guy with good hygiene and a likable personality your chances are pretty good. Naturally, the size of your “tool” might increase your odds. The key is your attitude. You must be likable, polite and giving.
Where and how do you start?
There are two things you can do. The first would be to post an ad, the second would be to search ads that are already out there from couples seeking males and answer those qualifying ads.
When looking through ads that are already out there, read the ads carefully. Make sure you understand what the couple is requesting and make sure that you qualify.
You must know the “swinging terminology”. If they are not seeking males, don’t respond to the ad. If they are only seeking black men and you are white don’t, then don t assume you will also be accepted. If you don’t fit their requirements then do not waste your time or their time.
When you do respond, don’t just write an email saying how much you’d like to do the wife. Tell them about yourself, provide a good description of who you are, what you look like and a little of your desires.
If possible, include a g rated full body or head shot photo. A g rated photo that includes your face will get you a LOT further than just a picture of your penis. Unless the couple requested a picture of your penis, don’t send it. Save the explicit pictures once you have already after made contact and established a good rapport.
When posting your ad, post as much information about yourself as possible. Give a good description of yourself as well as good description of the type of encounter you are looking for.
Also, provide a good idea of your location; I realize if you live in a small town you might not want to state the name of your town, but at least include the name of a larger town near you. If you are willing to travel, make that clear. If you can host activities at your home, state it. Be honest in your ad. If you are a married guy swinging without your wife be honest. Some MFM couples do not mind if you re married.
However, I must point out that if you are a married guy “fooling” around without your wife s consent, then to most swinging couples you’re considered a cheating husband. Most swinging couples do not tolerate that type of character.
Remember swinging is about honest and open relationships, not lying and cheating. Not everyone wants to post their face on the net or in a magazine. My suggestion is to post a full body shot with your face blocked if you are worried about discretion. Then once you get a response you can send them your face shot.
Remain persistent and always be a gentleman. If you really want to join swinging couples or couples into the MFM scenario, it might take time but eventually it will happen. If you want more tips on this topic, then I have even more secret “hot” tips you don’t want to miss.
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