By: William Jackson
Submitted: 2009-11-18 06:03:34 | Word Count: 541
First date can give you jitters and people with a shy nature might totally go back into the shell. If you know that your date is very shy, then prepare yourself accordingly. It is you who can only be able to make him/her come out of the shell. Thus, it is necessary to keep in mind certain points before you take that special ‘shy’ person out for a date. Few things that can be taken care of from beforehand are:
• Visualize the meeting that you are going to have with him/her
• Prepare a set of questions that you are likely to ask him/her and which he/she is comfortable to answer
• Teach yourself to be patient with him/her
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• Practice with any other friend to get a hold of the entire dating concept
Being shy is not an offence neither it is a trait of some abnormal behavior. Shyness resides in every individual, rather what is termed as ‘shyness’ in case of dating or interacting with new people can be termed as a ‘communication problem’. There can be many reasons why some people are excessively shy. This can be attributed to any incident of the past, upbringing or purely psychological but it can be overcome. Let’s see how.
Some tips to handle your shy date:
• Make him/her feel comfortable and at ease.
• Maintain a direct eye contact with your date.
• Begin your conversation on a light note. Stick to more simple topics so as not to make him/her more nervous.
• Give him/her space to talk. Listen more to him/her than talking yourself.
• Make him/her fell that you too are a little nervous. This should make them think that it is a common issue.
• Do not say or comment on anything that might make him/her conscious. This will stop them from opening up.
• Behave in a very friendly manner, smile and show warm gestures. This will surely help him/her to being communicative.
While these may be some tips to handle a shy date, those who suffer from this problem of shyness should try to overcome this by trying out some tips too like:
• First find out the reason for your shyness and try to combat it. Being strong mentally is the only medicine for it.
• Look your best on your date. A well presentable appearance always helps in boosting up your self confidence.
• Update yourself about the dating factor. Chart out from beforehand what you will wear, how you will talk, what will you say and ask him/her. If needed, rehearse it to make you feel better.
• Judge yourself and don’t take too much of other’s judgment. Socialize to feel more at ease to talk with others.
Ensure never to scare your date away with a disappointing look on your face. Remember your date will not remain shy forever; he/she will open up with time. Keep up the patience and help your partner to get over his/her introvert nature.
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