Had A Disastrous First Date: How Can You Keep The Conversation Going?
By: William Jackson
Submitted: 2009-11-02 04:00:19 | Word Count: 562
‘First impression is always the last impression’, such goes a saying. But human psychology is hard to analyze. Two persons are very different from each other and as such their thought process, behavior can be different in given circumstances. This perfectly explains why problems occur in a relationship and first impressions fall short of being perfect and the last ones. When two very different individuals face each other for the very first time, they are completely unknown to each other. The very first element that bonds them together is totally superficial. At that very moment, they can’t claim that they have a mental compatibility. It is this that they put to test on their very first date.
But what if the very first date is a disaster? It does not work out but still an attachment lingers on which nudges you to ask for a second meeting and you feel like you do not want to let it go? What is the way out in such cases?
Let’s see what measures can be resorted to, in case a first date does not work out to be as planned. But before that certain things needs to be cleared up.
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· Be sure that the date is actually a disaster. Your partner might even feel gloomy of the first date blow.
· Analyze the circumstances that finally lead to a failed date.
Once this is clear, ways to put things in order and keep the conversation going can be devised.
· A direct approach always does the trick. If you have your partner’s cell number, it is better to call, apologize and ask for a second chance.
· If a direct approach is not possible, an e mail can be easily dropped.
· It is better to be friends first than getting too close. Send some flowers and a note to request a further conversation.
· If required, drop in personally.
· Promise not to repeat the same mistakes which led to the problems.
· Try to remember what he/she disliked in the first meeting and avoid it.
· Avoid being pretentious. It is better to be yourself.
· Don’t bring in the bitterness of the last meeting into the second one. Bygones should be forgotten.
· Try to make up with a surprise gift. This might lead to a simple start.
· Avoiding controversial and personal topics is better. Stick to more common topics which can be discussed freely.
· Try to know each other rather than worrying about the world. Discuss your hobbies, likes and dislikes, future plans, career interests, families and more.
A bad or a disastrous first date therefore is totally unpredictable. It can happen with anyone and there is no reason to blame oneself for everything. It is better not to make have pre-conceived notions about your date. The real charm lies in the surprises and eventual disclosure of one to another. It is an art and so even if the first date chances upon to be a disastrous one, it is better not to lose heart but build up hope that the second one can be made better.
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