By: Martina Celegato
Submitted: 2009-10-08 04:28:47 | Word Count: 546
The family tree is not only the history of your family in the past centuries, but also a useful tool in some cases to trace back the events of the past and discover the roots of fear and anxiety that can really ruin our life.
According to the Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) the family tree is a crucial moment to rebuild our time-line and find out the inner and ancient causes of our phobias, bringing to light the hidden knots that sink their roots in the past generations.
The timeline is the way a person stores the memories of the past at an unconscious level and how this person also project these memories also in the future. According to this theory, to get rid of negative emotions and their influence on our everyday life, we must also discover the secular roots, then go back in time in your family tree to dissolve the negative effects of past experiences.
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In this way it should be possible to overcome fears, phobias that plague you, which until now you have not understood the cause and therefore much less the solution. Different centers also in Italy are developing these techniques to help people change and live better lives, no longer limited by past negative experiences. The principle underlying the theory of NLP is that if a person can build something as complex as a phobia, a fear or a reactive behavior to particular states of mind, this person can also certainly learn to use that same “learning” ability to face the same situations in a totally different way. It is indeed a peculiar feature of NLP not questioning why a certain thing happens, but how it can happen.
Just as the phobia is suddenly triggered in the mind of the victim, at the same time it can be disabled. This is therefore a rather quick process, and not long and painful as in psychoanalysis.
What NLP wants to teach is that you can change your life also in the short term, becoming calmer, stronger, more confident. In fact another of the fundamental teachings is the NLP communication. Communication is the passage from one person to another of information or otherwise a message. It is however important that the message reaches its destination, so it is important to know how to communicate optimally. There are not bad listeners, but only bad communicators. To implement these techniques, we must remember that people are not their behavior: we always have to go further, be flexible and dynamic, to understand the views of others, interpret their behavior and insight needs.
NLP can help in this task through the study of representational systems: some people think is visual terms, others think is auditory terms, in the end kinesthetic people give great importance to the sensations they feel or have felt.
It is therefore of primary importance to know how to adapt the way we communicate depending on the listener facing us. A technique that can be learned fairly quickly, turning to the NLP centers or with personal study.
