According to Webster the definition of a bridezilla is thus:
Bridezilla bride-zil-a n 1 Horrific, bulging eyed bride prone to screaming spells and spontaneous fits of hysterical rage. Bridezillas are known to drop blows over seating charts, get bug-eyed at the mere mention of carnations and view hurling champagne at their wedding planners as a form of hazing.
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Of course there are those who feel that becoming a Bridezilla is the only way in which they will achieve the wedding of their dreams. High on caffeine, empty on calories, these brides view the world with something akin to rose tinted spectacles when it comes to their wedding. For them every element of their wedding has to be perfection, it has to be exactly as they have envisaged and everything has to be fabulous, right down to the final finishing touches. These women know exactly what they want and more fool anyone who stands in their way
But seriously, weddings are stressful enough without screaming fits, tantrums and periods of prolonged sobbing Weddings are supposed to be a happy affair, a time of love and romance, the union of two souls and the celebration with friends and family.
There are those brides who can approach their wedding planning with relative calm and ease. Yes they too know what they want and how to get it, but their laid back and casual approach, leaves them more open to compromise and happy to accept that something’s just aren’t possible.
Or perhaps you are the other kind the type who from the moment you got engaged has become a whirling dervish of wedding plans, flowers, cakes and invitations. You have probably been planning your wedding since your were a child and at the first sign of something not going right your stress levels hit the roof and stay there. You can’t sleep, your fiancé knows not to ask just don’t even go there You’re a nervous wreck and nothing anyone says is going to appease you.
Time to chill out and relax.
Easier said than done I hear you scream But it is so important that you keep everything in perspective and take control. Firstly you need to be organized, wedding planning is impossible without some kind of system to keep it under control. You need to know what your priorities are, what are the most important elements of your wedding to you both. How much can afford to spend? Who will be coming? What style or theme of wedding do you want? Where would you like to have it? When would you like to have it?
Make sure you write it all down. Purchase a notebook or file to keep it all organized and in one place. Once you have the answers to these questions everything else will follow quietly and for most, easily. Your next step then is to grab a calendar and make a timeline. Note down your wedding date first, then the day on which your invitations should be sent out and the last day on which you need to receive RSVP’s. These are the important dates, as you progress with your wedding planning you will be able to fill in the other dates, such as appointments, when to purchase your wedding favors, dress fittings and your rehearsal.
Next you need to make sure you allocate some me time - time on your own when you can switch off from all things wedding and think about something completely different (first-borns christening perhaps?). You also need to have time alone together, go out for dinner, have a weekend away or simply a romantic meal at home. Anything as long as all talk of weddings is banned
Lastly you need to be realistic about your expectations, your budget and what is really important getting married. If something you really wanted is not available or you just cannot afford it, then get over it and move on. The wedding industry is very adaptable and there are always alternatives, talk to experts in the industry, wedding planners and go online to wedding forums, where you can get lots of advice, suggestions and maybe some much needed support as well.
Author Resource:-
Georgina Clatworthy is a dedicated full time writer who composes informative articles related to wedding favors and wedding. She is connected with 1WeddingSource, today’s leading wedding social networking planning site.
