By: Aaron Adams
Submitted: 2008-07-24 23:27:16 | Word Count: 527
Scared of living solo?
A lot of wonderful women like you balk at the idea of spending the rest of their lives alone. Many are not even aware that they are scared but the fear is manifested in the way they handle their relationships with men. It’s a relationship pattern that is repeated over and over again, ending almost certainly with a broken heart, and it makes the women feel worse as time goes by.
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Honestly gauge yourself if you are bound to make the same mistakes that women who are scared of living life alone do. You may be doing so without realizing it.
Going Out With The “Unavailable”.
Who are the men who join the dating pool just to have fun and are not really in the market to find someone to walk down the aisle with? These are the “unavailable men” whose vocabulary does not include the word commitment. If you realize that you are basically dating men of this kind, then you may be afraid of living life alone.
If you think that you can change the mind of the “unavailable man” then you may be waiting for nothing in the end. It will be an uphill climb if you wish to change his mind at how he looks at the future and about settling down. So you just do the same things that you did in your past failed relationship.
Being Too Clingy.
There are women who have the tendency to get into a relationship with the first man who comes along because they cannot live life without having a boyfriend. These are the women who give in to everything he wishes because she thinks that by giving him everything he wants, she can make him stay forever.
Honestly, if you make him believe that you are too easy, then he would see you as too predictable, and they do not want that. The next thing you know, he will be looking for a more exciting girl because she is unpredictable and fun. When that time comes, heartbreak is bound to happen.
Being A Doormat.
The worst mistake of all is to put up with everything he does, even if it makes you lose your self respect. Putting up with his abuses and disrespect just to hold on to him is a battle that you will surely lose in the end.
What do you do when you find yourself in this situation? Move on. Do not hold on to a hopeless relationship. Get out of the picture and rediscover who you really are. Instead of pining on to that man, let go and take stock of your life. Are you presenting yourself as someone a man is willing to grow old with?
Bear in mind that the man who is really a good catch is attracted to women who think for themselves, and are intelligent, attractive and especially fun to be with. These are the women who pique their interest enough to make them want to see her again and again.
In short, look at yourself first. You might discover that you need to change yourself before you can change him.
